Naturally no one wants to believe that infidelity in marriage will happen to them. That’s something that happens to celebrities, politicians or even friends of yours but never you.Except at this point in time your intuition is telling you that your spouse is being less than forthcoming with regards to their comings and goings.
Not only that but when they are with you cannot help but get the impression they are a thousand miles away.
Sure relationships can settle into a routine. Both parties take certain things for granted because the other person has always done their part in fulfilling the marriage contract.
But now things are different. You suspect that your spouse’s loyalties and longings are someplace else. More specifically with someone else.
You cannot just accuse them of cheating on you without any proof. That alone could destroy the marriage or allow them to lie and say no and use your lack of evidence to really manipulate you and the relationship.
Therefore even with the following signs of infidelity in marriage be careful. Use them as touchstones to continuing your infidelity investigation not as excuses to have the ultimate final showdown with your mate.
1. Working Over
This is one of the classics telltale signs when it comes to cheating. Your spouse may be working late. After all these are tough economic times so if the boss is offering a chance to make a few extra dollars then by all means go for it.
Just make sure that it is reflected in their paycheck. If they refuse to show you their paystub or make some excuse as to why the time they allegedly worked is not reflected then you may be onto something.
2. Heightened Privacy
It’s hard to carry on an affair and still maintain the openness of your marital relationship. Something has to give and that usually takes the form of your spouse building a wall to keep all intruders out. In this case that means you.
They disappear to other parts of the house when they get a call or even when they log on to their computer. Talking to them about something other than family business becomes more difficult. They may also start keeping a lock on some of their personal belongings whereas before no such barrier existed between the two of you.
3. A New Person
Naturally in some form or another husband and wife should look to grow as a couple as well as individuals. Yet unexpected changes when they showed no interest before means something or more specifically someone has gotten them to change their minds. You need to know exactly who it was.