Women love confidence, they’re drawn to it, any woman will tell you that one of the characteristics that she looks for in a man is confidence, it’s part of the natural order of things. And for some men the only reason they lack confidence in themselves is due to what they see as a sexual deficiency, such as a lack of stamina. So get some more stamina, it’s not as hard as you might think, it will get you your confidence and more pleasure during sex.

So how do you get more stamina? The answer is easy, and fun! It’s practice. And yes, by practice I do mean masturbation, but I’ll tell you right now that just masturbating a lot won’t get you anywhere.

The Nitty-Gritty

First, you need the tool to get things done and that means male sex toys, a male masturbator to be more precise, yes, a male masturbator. You need to emulate real sex but have full control at the same time and the only way to do that is a quality male masturbator. I wouldn’t spend anything less than around $50 and make sure whatever you decide to get has good reviews, if you get something crappy not only will it look bad and won’t feel as real but it probably won’t last too long either.What is the best male masturbator to use? I always go for Fleshlights, Fleshlights are extremely realistic male masturbators, they make a ton of different varieties and styles, they have what you’re looking for.

Now that you have your toy you can’t just go to town on it, although that would be fun it won’t get you the gains you need, follow the directions below:

1. Make sure you go slowly, don’t hurry, don’t think about anything but what’s happening. Enjoy the sensations that you’re experiencing, and again, take it slow, hurrying won’t get you anywhere. You can put on some porn or something if it will keep you focused on what you’re doing, but whatever you do, go slow.

2. Don’t let yourself get too aroused in the beginning, pay attention to your levels of arousal, try to put them on a scale from 1 to 10, 1 being just getting hard and 10 being a full-blown orgasm. At first try to keep it at a 4 or 5, if you find yourself getting higher than that stop, relax for a minute, then start up again. Remember to take it slowly at first, don’t be in a hurry and just relax.

3. Keep reminding yourself what you’re doing here, the gains you are going to make. So when you get your arousal level above 7, stop or 45 seconds or so, then restart again, slowly.

4. Keep going with the start/stop routine, and make sure you don’t let yourself get too high on the scale, it’s critical that you keep that number under control, it’s the only way to get the gains you’re looking for. But each time you stop and start, allow yourself to get a little closer to 10, but don’t lose control.

5. Keep this up for at least 20 minutes, longer if you want. As you get better and gain more stamina you can go harder while keeping control and allowing yourself to hold at a higher arousal level. But these gains won’t come too quickly, it may be a few weeks before you can start changing the basic pattern, so once again, don’t get into a hurry.

6. Keep practicing, shoot for five times a week or so, depending on your lifestyle, but make sure it’s at least a few. After a few weeks I promise you’ll see some serious changes and you will enjoy your sessions much more and your sex will get much better!

Forget the pills, forget the creams, forget the double condoms, this will work for pretty much any man out there, unfortunately it won’t for others and some men might need to seek professional advice.