The Relationship Tip

Simcha Whitehill’s grandmother answers some relationship questions. Some of them you may find a little over the top but the Silver Fox handles them with decorum.

by Andyl Bergerl

Are there any signs that makes you know if you are in the right relationship? After breaking up and getting back together, you may tend to have overseen something that is crystal clear to everyone except you that there is something wrong in your relationship. So how do you really know if you are in the right relationship?

Determining the person if they are right for you cannot be possible. But what you can determine right now is if the relationship you are in right now is right. Things will eventually change but right now, you have to look at the present and ask yourself am I in the right relationship?

Several questions can be asked to let you know if the relationship is the right relationship? You may ask yourself Am I happy? There will be several answers that will come up but you must focus on the things that make you happy when you are with them.

You may have a doubt now and then or a bad feeling, but if your feelings toward the person and the relationship are mostly positive, then you could be in a great relationship. Don’t let the odd doubt or strange feeling make you wonder if you’ve made a mistake.

When there are time when you feel sad ask yourself if it is because you want to be with someone else or can it be that you are thinking of the possibilities if you were not tied down by this relationship that you have now? Are these the reasons why you are sad and feeling so down lately?

Everyone thinks things like that from time to time. But if you’re preoccupied by what ifs and if only thoughts, you might not be in the right relationship after all.

Ask yourself if you are safe in your relationship. Are you sure you will not be physically abused? This will also apply to your psychological aspect. They should not hurt you emotionally too.

You are probably in the wrong relationship when you are constantly asking yourself if you are under constant threat of breakups. You are also in the wrong relationship when you know that they are capable of cheating on you.

Make sure that your doubts are reasonable also. You should not spend all your time in looking after their actions. You should not just base your decisions on unproven theories. You are just wasting your time.

Are you sure they are susceptible in cheating on you? Maybe it is just your lack of confidence that makes you think of these things. But if you are certain they can cheat or are cheating on you then you are probably in a wrong relationship and there is no need to prolong it.

Do you feel special? If you feel like you’re constantly fighting for the other persons attention and affection, you might look for someone else. You should feel like the person most important to them if you’re in the right relationship.