The Relationship Tip

We’ve all had situations with our partner or significant other in which we mean to say something nice, but it’s perceived as the total opposite.

No amounts of back tracking, apologies or explanations are going to fix it. You didn’t mean it the way it was taken, but now you’re stuck with it.

Keep reading for three of the most common “Whoops” insults and how to fix things if they happen to slip out from between your lips;

1) “You’re not like anyone I’ve ever been out with”

What you meant to say was “you’re fantastic!”, but what he/she will be thinking is that they don’t measure up to your previous partners.

Avoid comparing your current sweetie to your past ones even if you mean to put them at the top of the list. Especially at the beginning of a relationship, your guy or gal wants to believe they’re the first, not the last in a long string.

When the words have already left your mouth, you need to recover, and fast! Start by reassuring your significant other that he/she has left any others in the dust and follow that up with a couple of specific and sincere compliments. Don’t get too wordy and over the top here, you don’t want to make things worse. They need to know that there’s no one else you’d rather be with.

2) “Size, schmise, it really doesn’t matter”

Good grief, you didn’t, did you? That’s just never okay. Unfortunately, I’ve done it myself, and instantly regretted it. Your grandmother probably felt the same way when she let this gem slip!

Every time a woman utters these words she’ll be met with an awkward silence and tons of insecurity.

The most frustrating part of this is that for the most part it’s true Unless your man’s part is so exceptional it defies belief, size really doesn’t matter. But there isn’t a man alive who will believe it.

If you’ve made this verbal faux pas, don’t dwell on it. Give a quick explanation and move on. And make plans for some special attention later in the evening.

3) “I can’t believe you got the job!”

Now, maybe only the most insecure of people would see this as an insult. But hey, a lot of people are insecure and it doesn’t make them bad people…you just have to be careful.

Make sure a compliment is truly a compliment. Of course they got the job! Hell yes, they got that job! They are going to kick that job’s ass and show it who’s boss! Those are compliments.

When your response to your partner’s good news is one of surprise, they’ll think you doubt their ability. It may be annoying, but if you think about it you’ll see that their reaction is justified. You’re supposed to be their biggest supporter. You shouldn’t need to be won over.

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