The Relationship Tip

Cupid may be popular in some circles, but in others, he wouldn’t do much better than Giuliani. Most singles today are content with their solo-status and feel it’s not worth the trouble to look for love.

According to a study conducted by AARP among people 40-70, only 16% are willing to do anything to find love. That’s why Cupid couldn’t garner enough votes to win a primary. It’s seems this icon of romance no longer stands for what the people want.

But wait a minute – is that really true?

AOL just released a survey about love on January 2nd that showed 66% of people 40-49 believe they can have more than one soul mate in a life time and for respondents 50-69, that belief rose to a whopping 72%!

So, if people assume more than one perfect love is possible, how come so few want to take steps to find it? Have boomer singles gotten lazy, disenchanted, or simply dropped romance as a priority because the adult dating game is too confusing?

Regardless of what may hold people back from looking for love, here are four savvy strategies for finding love this Valentine’s season.

1) Get Out There!

Dating has become big business because there are so many adult singles. That means there are lots of ways to meet new people! To increase your chances of finding the right date for you, try a mix of events like dances, speed dating, and meetup.com groups. Look in your local paper, your town’s online calendar, on craigslist.com and meetup.com.

2) Relax and Enjoy

Meeting new people can actually be fun! If you take the pressure off and just enjoy getting to know folks, you will undoubtedly encounter some very interesting prospects. As boomers, you don’t have to worry if a potential partner will be good for raising a family, so you can relax some criteria from your youth that no longer applies.

3) Enlist Your Network

Don’t hide the fact that you’d like to find a relationship – tell your friends and family! You might even share your desire with a few trusted colleagues. Your personal network is one of your best resources for drumming up blind dates, so allow those close to you to help with your search.

4) Smile and Be Friendly

It’s hard to imagine having to dole out this advice, but many people have become far less social. If you find that your guard is up when you are walking out doors or entering a store, you might want to consider starting a new practice. Try smiling at people.

You don’t have to marry anyone you smile at – it’s not a commitment. But showing those pearly whites makes others feel good and that will ripple into lifting your spirits as well. When you smile, you are much more attractive and that’s what you want.

The desire for love and companionship is a basic human need. But romance doesn’t often just happen spontaneously – you’ll have to put a bit of effort in. It’s worth it – none of my happy clients have ever say to me – “Wow all the time I spent looking for my partner was such a waste.” Make finding love a priority today.

Discover the new breakthrough audio program, I Believe: Affirmations to Find Love Now at http://www.NeverTooLate.biz by Ronnie Ann Ryan – The Dating Coach. As a speaker, workshop leader, and author, Ronnie offers proven dating strategies via coaching, online profile writing and review, her book, audio programs, and her blog. She’s been featured on Sally Jesse Raphael Radio, MSN.com and MORE.com as well as TV, radio, and print. Ronnie found love and married over 40 and knows if she could do you, you can too!

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Where do you go when you are looking for love?

Are you considering joining an online dating site but not sure its for you?

Let me tell you how I first discovered online dating and why I firmly believe it fits in with our modern day lifestyles

A couple of years ago online dating still had a stigma attached to it. Although people were using the internet as a method of dating, they did not discuss it with friends or colleagues for fear of coming across desperate.

I recall a friend of mine who was initially embarrassed to tell me she had joined an online dating site. At the time, I was rather surprised as she was an attractive girl who would be considered quite a catch.

However, after chatting to her I completely understood why she had resorted to this method of dating; she was simply tired of meeting timewasters who were not interested in committing to a relationship.

Whilst she had no desire to date some of the men who contacted her, there were quite a few she was interested in and she began a dating spell to make any “singleton” jealous.

She then struck up an online relationship with someone who lived 100 miles from her. After exchanging many emails and chatting on the telephone, she decided to meet him.

Obviously, the distance didnt make the relationship ideal but the spark was there and she enjoyed 6 months dating someone with similar interests, shared romantic weekends together and had a fantastic holiday.

Although he didnt turn out to be the one, when I asked if she regretted joining an online dating site her answer was “Definitely not!” Her view was that if she hadnt joined an online dating site, those 6 months would have been spent moaning about meeting the same timewasters in the same old haunts and wondering “what if”.

She was simply being proactive in her search for love; after all life is far too short!

If youre not convinced online dating is for you, here are 11 reasons why I think online dating has its advantages:-

1. You dont have to wait until the weekend to meet someone.
2. You dont have to get dressed up for a night “online”. Wear whatever you feel comfortable in at home.
3. If you work unusual hours online dating fits in with your schedule. You can log on at any time of the day to suit you; there is always someone online waiting to chat.
4. If you start chatting to someone and then decide they are not what you are looking for, put them back in the net gently and choose another. There are plenty of fish in the sea!
5. If you are tired of seeing the same old faces when you go out, there are people of all age groups all across the country waiting online to meet someone.
6. If you are new to an area online dating is a great way of meeting people whether it’s for friendship or dating. If you meet a few people online in your area, you can arrange a get together for you all rather than meeting on a one-to-one basis.
7. If all of your friends have settled down or you have recently become single what better way to meet new someone quickly than to go online and meet more singles!
8. Anonymous messaging and chat rooms let you flirt to your hearts content without any embarrassment or getting tongue-tied.
9. You will probably find out more about someone online before you arrange a date with them than you would if you had met them in a bar. Online dating usually makes people more cautious about who they choose to date and in this day and age that cant be a bad thing!
10. We now live and date very differently to previous generations where the traditional place to meet people was in nightclubs, parties, at work or through friends. By joining an online dating site you are not excluding these avenues but simply extending your opportunities of meeting someone.
11. Finally, 1 months membership costs less than a night out and gives you hundreds of opportunities to meet your perfect partner every night!

With so many positive reasons to go online for love, finding your perfect partner has never been easier. Try it out for yourself and please let me know how you’re doing.

Alison Edwards runs http://www.SnappyDates.com/ a UK based dating site for men and women of all ages.
Registration is free.
http://www.SnappyDates.com

Over the past 20 years the face of dating has gone through some incredible changes.So, how do you go about looking for love? Before you start, you have to know exactly what you are looking for whether it is friendship or a permanent relationship.

If you are bored of normal dating and you have heard of this thing called online dating and you are tempted to try it out, then why not? You can choose an online dating site that meets your needs, find people who have the features you desire along with the things you have in common and get in touch with them immediately. Online dating is fast becoming a normal way of meeting new people.

Anonymity is important to most people these days when considering online dating. You won’t be required to reveal your address, e-mail or telephone number to any other member of the online dating service unless you want to. Most of the online dating services do charge a fee for their services.

Whether we like it or not, the internet has affected our lives including the way we meet and date people. There are many advantages to joining a dating site to find a partner. If you are thinking about joining a dating site, take the time to say something about yourself, your lifestyle, what your interests are and the type of person you would like to meet. Show your potential dates the real you.

With online dating, you are covered by the anonymity of the internet and you can erase your mistakes far more easily than you could if you had messed up in real life. Many dating sites screen their members personally. Some people look for a dating site that is allows them to find the specific type of relationship they are looking for.

You can usually search through an online dating sites galleries so that you can see some of the pictures and biographies of people that fit into your search categories. With so many people online now, there has been a rapid increase in the number of online dating services. Some online dating sites will give you free private email accounts and access to thousands of profiles for free.

What Internet dating does better than any other method is that it gives you exposure to an extremely large group of other singles. Pen pal romance or online dating doesn’t change how men and women love, it changes the method by which they fall in love. Take full advantage of the tools provided on the dating site because they are there to help you enhance the experience. At the end of the day, it really depends on what you are looking for that matters. In this regard, even though the bigger personals sites will have more features, like webcam chat etc., they are not so focused and are really only aimed at dating personals in general.

With a responsible attitude and an open mind, online dating can be a great confidence builder, and also great fun. Online dating services can give you important information about a persons likes and dislikes and whether you might hit it off or definitely not, but when engaging in online dating, it is very important to exercise caution.

The online dating world today can seem strange and confusing at first. If you have recently become single what better way to meet someone new than to go online and meet more singles. The internet has radically altered the way we work, shop, conduct our financial affairs, and entertain ourselves. To use it as a stepping-stone for meeting potential partners is a logical step in our ever changing world.

Anthony Bradley is a writer for Love Guides which has lots more articles about dating which you can find in the articles index Feel free to use this article on your website, in your newsletter, in your e-book or elsewhere provided that the article is unchanged, including the author information and all website links.

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Some people might argue that online dating is not safe, as there has been a few bad cases. But when you look at the big picture, it is just as safe, if not safer than meeting some psycho at the local bar and bringing them home.

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After a thirty year marriage ended in divorce three years ago, Christine Shiber was happy to be single and looking forward to meeting someone new. But it has not been easy:

She has tried social networking, going to dance clubs, reconnecting with friends at her class reunion (all married), waiting for something magic to happen and online dating. “When you’re 18, you just jump in,” she said. “Now, I worry. What do I need to know about him and what do I need to share about myself — with a whole lifetime to pick from?

“You’re looking for chemistry, but smart enough to know instant chemistry might not be the right chemistry. You might not feel real chemistry until you really know the person.

“How much time and energy should I put into this process?”

She understands why several of her female friends have given up.

Shiber has not given up but the statistics show how tough it is for women over 50.

Just turn on your internet radio.

Robert Siciliano, Single Minded Women:

However, in our never ending quest to Find Mr. Right, the one under-discussed, over looked and “it can’t happen to me” aspect of being on the dating scene is your personal security, and that of your children.

In fact, online dating is one way pedophiles find their next victims (through unsuspecting single mothers looking for love and perhaps a male role model for their children).

This is a topic most avoid and few embrace. The very idea of being in the presence of a bad seed and your safety being vulnerable is not something we care to acknowledge.