The Relationship Tip

Human beings have an inherent need to develop meaningful relationships. We all want to share our goals, ideas, joys, sorrows, desires, affection and experiences with someone else.

However, we all fall short at times in handling the mechanics of them. There are times when we need to doctor up or even perform surgery on some of our relationships.

Do you experience any of the following symptoms in any of your relationships?

Frequent arguments

Low energy conversations

Apathy regarding the relationship

Lack of interaction/no desire for proximity

Continuously looking for something better

We go to the doctor for regular checkups, but how often do we check the health of our relationships? Just like your physical health, positive relationshipswhether they are romantic, social or professionalrequire maintenance.

Good relationships dont just happen. Just as our physical bodies get sick from time to time, most relationships go through periods of illness as well. Fortunately, with proper treatment, these relationships can recover and thrive.

Being constantly on guard for symptoms of illness within your relationships will help keep them healthy and prosperous. People who have healthy relationships are happier and less stressed.

If you answered yes to any of the above symptoms, you might be in an unhealthy relationship. If so, here are some possible remedies:

Regular check-ups to determine the overall health of your relationship, it is important to regularly communicate with your partner, friend, relative or associate to determine how they are feeling about the relationship. Set a regular period, depending on the relationship monthly, quarterly, etc. to get together for the sole purpose of assessing the relationship.

Relationship checklist/chart discuss what is working and what is not working in your relationship. Work on the issues and revisit them to see if the stats have improved at the next check-in.

Weigh in on your relationship each of you should share your feelings with the other person. Be open and honest about what you are experiencing and listen carefully to his or her concerns.

Take the temperature of your relationships. Is it running hot or cold? Do you still enjoy each others company and/or benefit from the association. Is it moving in a positive direction?

Measure the pulse? Is it strong or weak? Is the bond between you growing stronger or weaker from one check-in to the next? Use the correct prescription – know the right dosage of love and caring to share with that person, remembering that the prescription will be unique for each individual.

Know yourself – just as you pay attention to your bodys signals when it is experiencing injury or illness, know your personal reactions to the situations you encounter in your relationships and how those situations affect you. Know your numbers and how to read your results.

Read the warning signs/symptoms as indicated above, watch for key indications that might indicate that there is a malignancy in your relationship.

Here are some of the vital signs of a healthy relationship:

Built on respect, trust and caring

Allows each person to be an individual and to grow personally

Allows for differences of opinion and interests

Apologizes, talks things out and moves on

Knows how to respect each others space

Enjoys each others company

Benefits from each others opinions

Supports each others goals

Contains open communication and sharing of thoughts and ideas as well as active listening

Establishes boundaries that the other knows not to cross

Has common interests, but also values differences

Picks their battles by determining what is really
important and what issues are not worth arguing about and works on one issue at a time.

Comfortable saying no when necessary

Expresses appreciation for each other to reaffirm respect and affection

In a healthy relationship, you should not be afraid to speak your mind. No type of relationship should cause you to compromise or doubt who you are. People who have your best interests at heart will never ask you to be someone you are not or to compromise what you believe in. Before being open with anyone else, you must first be honest with yourself about who you are, what you are seeking from another person and what you are willing to give.

Remember, healthy relationships are not built overnight. It takes time, energy and commitment to develop any type of relationship, whether with business associates, family, friends or a romantic partner. So, be happy; be healthy; be whole. Here is to a healthier you!

Author: Talayah Stovall
Article Source: EzineArticles.com
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It’s a general impression that women are normally more loyal than men. It is said that women think from their heart and because of this they tend to consider how another person will be affected by their actions; whereas men are said to think with a particular part of their anatomy and consequences be damned (although this is not necessarily true it is the common perception).

However, in this day and time there are many women who have begun to think with other parts of their anatomy who desire affairs. While 40% of married men have cheated on their wives at some point in their lives, about 20% of women want to have an affair outside marriage.

This is a high percentage considering that women are not naturally infidel creatures. So that brings us to the questions…why women desire affairs?

Some recent polls conducted amongst women in this regard had some eye opening results.

While men desire affairs to fulfill a basic physical need, the women desire affairs for reasons other than just physical. One of the main reasons that women would resort or want infidelity is loneliness and pain. There are women whose husbands work late nights or are out of town most of the times.

There are some women whose husbands are in foreign lands. These women are lonely and sad. They feel unwanted and desolate. They ache with loneliness.

An affair brings light into their lives since they feel that there is some one who cares and understands them if only temporarily. We, human beings have an innate need to be appreciated and understood. If our partners are unable to fulfill that need then there are chances that infidelity can happen.

It’s often seen that before marriage, women get a lot of attention from their suitors or would be husbands. Once the courtship period is over and the marriage takes place then this attention is withdrawn.

Men think that now they have married her, she is theirs to do what they please. The thrill of the chase is no longer present and hence the spark goes out of the marriage. On the other hand, the woman feels cheated.

She feels that all the love and affection shown before the marriage was a sham. In this situation life becomes a torture and some accept it, while the other women seek revenge. As a result, they look for people who appreciate them, pay attention to them and make them feel good. Hence affairs happen.

However, it has been seen that there are some women who don’t have affairs in spite of the conditions and there are some who do. What is the demarcating line and where does the difference lie?

Women who are neglected, lonely or sad thrive on attention. The moment they meet men who pay attention to them, they start gravitating towards them.

They discover same tastes, likes and dislikes and start confiding their deepest problems and secrets to them. In other words, they are not consciously looking for an affair; however, they need some one to make them feel good about themselves.

While women may do it out of boredom and loneliness, some women do it out of revenge since they know that their husband’s are cheating on them. They deliberately seek out a person who gives them attention that they want.

Whatever the case, we are all humans. IF we say women do not do the right thing by cheating, then we should also say the same for men too. Women are also creatures with sentiments and emotions. Like they say “it takes two to clap”.

Article written by Ryan Singler

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Let’s start out by talking about the laws of nature.

When it rains you get wet. Big animals eat small animals. If you don’t drink water you will die. People cheat on each other.

Did you catch the last one?

Human beings are not monogamous by nature. We don’t mate exclusively for life with the first partner we choose.

We have many mates throughout our lifetime.

And we don’t just have sex to reproduce.

Some animals do. Human beings do not.

But when it comes to infidelity, people think that the laws of nature do not apply to them.

They think that no one would ever cheat on them because they’re too good in bed, too good looking, too wealthy, too good at this, too good at that and so on and so on.

“He would never do that to me, he loves me”

“She would never do that, she has it too good”

The #1 biggest, most notorious reason why affairs go undetected is because people refuse to believe that it can happen to them.

Well let me tell you right now that the laws of nature apply to everyone — including you.

I don’t care who you are – a celebrity – a bum – a mother - a father – a nobody.

Anyone, and I mean anyone, can cheat on you.

If you don’t accept this fact, you will miss every little thing your lover does that screams “I’m cheating on you”.

Let me tell you a little story…

An old friend came to my door one day to cry on my shoulder about the troubles he was having with his wife.

She was doing all of this strange things, he saw her hugging another man in a parking lot, she wouldn’t sleep in the same bed with him and so on.

I mean any 6 year old could have seen she was cheating on him.

It was that obvious.

But he refused to believe it.

Why?

Well here were his answers, in order:

1. He pays for everything and he doesn’t cheat on her, so why would she cheat?

2. He asked her if she was cheating and she said no.

3. He’s smarter than her.

This is the perfect example of someone who doesn’t think the laws of nature apply to them.

He couldn’t believe that someone would cheat on him. He couldn’t “get over himself”.

And the fact of the matter is that almost everyone thinks this way at one time or another.

If you don’t believe that it can happen to you, if you think that you are that one special person in the universe where the laws of nature don’t apply to you, you’re going to have a miserable time of it.

Want to know what ended up happening to my old friend?

He’s currently going through a bitter divorce that he doesn’t want. She left him and was the one that filed. And gee, she also has a boyfriend that works at the same place she does!

And he still can’t believe what’s happening to him!

Does this sound similar to anyone you know?

Now let’s recap the most important points for you to know:

1. You must accept the cold hard facts that anyone can and will cheat on you. It’s human nature. If you don’t “get over yourself” and accept this, you’re in for a lot of misery.

2. Don’t ever expect your lover to admit to you that they are having an affair. If you’re waiting for this to happen, it will be the longest wait of your life.

There’s something going on. Now take action to find out how to catch your cheating lover.

by Daryl Campbell

Maybe you’re one of the kindest human beings that anyone would ever want to meet. Bragging incessantly about your new car, big house or ever growing bank account can give your date a false picture of the real you.

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