The Relationship Tip

Because husbands and wives are not perfect, marriages are also bound to have imperfections. A marriage isn’t all times good and all times bad-it’s a combination of both.

Marriage issues and problems will always be part of the relationship. These issues can range from simple and small problems to real serious ones, but all of them are capable of destroying a relationship when not handled correctly. If you will notice, these problems have brought forth the popularity of marriage counseling and therapy.

The following are three of the typical issues modern couples face today:

Communication is one problem that many husbands and wives face. Communication is a common source of pressure and stress in the life of many husbands and wives. It’s common in man to want to please others, and it sometimes lead to the failure to communicate what one truly feels in a relationship.

Many people also avoid confrontation and sometimes choose to let a problem sit for a while. However, the longer the problem stays unresolved, the harder it is to fix. So, couples must always keep the communications lines open. To keep issues from getting bigger, they should be dealt with as soon as they arise.

Many couples also deal with problems with honesty and trust. Losing trust on one’s partner is easy once dishonesty is involved. And, all it takes is one dishonest act to destroy the trust of your partner on you.

And without trust, all other problems can easily break a couple. Gossip can easily cause misunderstandings and division, and suspicions can give way to quarrels and more problems. It is therefore important to practice honesty to each other and to always trust one another.

Simple and small things-these are usually the last cause of problems among husbands and wives. Among these are the sharing of domestic tasks, the day to day decisions to be made, the showing of appreciation to one’s spouse, and the perceptibility to the other’s feelings.

Many couples do not care about the seemingly simple day-to-day stuff they encounter in marriage, not realizing how much they influence the relationship.

Therefore, it’s important to pay attention to these things. Couple must see to it that they do not grow too comfortable with each other to the point that some things are already ignored.

No marriage is ever perfect, yes, but couples can still enjoy a happy marriage if they properly address all the imperfections and marriage issues confronting their relationship.

Article by Jagger O. Mansbridge

I am a wife and a proud mother of three children. I am also an advocate of solving marriage issues

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What is the purpose for having an affair? Most people would say it is because they like or love the other person they are having the affair with. Think about this. At one time in your life, you also loved the person you married, right?

What happened? Some people have affairs and trysts because they allow their negative emotions to control them. Simply put, they listen to their feelings. Sex outside of marriage is a lack of self-control. Having Self-control comes from God. No one has the power to defeat the flesh on his or her own.

We all want to be accepted, appreciated and loved and when we dont get that at home, some of us go out of our way to go get it. But it is morally wrong to go outside the bounds of marriage and enjoy someone other than who we married. So why do some people do it?

1. Affairs simply dont work because many times they are just a temporary fling. Marriage is (supposed to be) forever. And if the affair is not temporary, one day you might end up marrying the person you cheated with, and later find out the euphoria of the relationship is gone. And now your new spouse nags about your faults. Now what? Should you cheat on your second spouse now to make yourself feel better again?

2. Affairs dont work because youre married. More than half of all affairs dissolve because the cheater wants to repent and work on their marriage. This says something to all of you who get involved with a married person. Dont count your chickens before theyre hatched. Better yet, dont get involved with a married person.

3. Affairs dont usually work because the unmarried partner is desperate for you to divorce your spouse. Their desperate behavior lets you see what kind of a person you have been hanging around with. Sooner or later, if they keep pushing you to divorce your spouse, youll leave them and go back to your spouse.

4. Affairs dont work because after going through all the trouble of moving out of your house and being the bad guy with your children, you actually feel worse than before. This happens a lot. Adultery is not worth the effort. Have you ever thought about what kind of a person would have an affair with a married person anyway?

The reality is most people who commit adultery wish they wouldnt have done it. But the minority few cheaters will continue to cheat on all their partners until they are physically unable to. They will never find satisfaction within themselves, so they get it from using and abusing others. Fortunately, this is only the minority, but works for both men and women.

5. Affairs dont work because most of the time it is sexual lust that leads the heart to have the affair in the first place. Some people try real hard to find justification for committing adultery or they blame their spouse. This is how powerful feelings can be.

Wrong thinking steers people further and further away from God and closer and closer into sin. A persons lustful thoughts eventually make him to commit adultery. The need for acceptance and love is so strong in the mind that it leads to sex outside of marriage.

The Lord is with you when you are with him. If you seek him, he will be found by you, but if you forsake him, he will forsake you. 2 Chronicles 15:2 NIV)

A persons infidelity is only the symptom of a greater issue within them. Without seeking out the Spiritual Christ for our spiritual well being, we will remain separate from God and unable to remain self-controlled. We need God!

Choosing to work on your marriage will make you a stronger and better marriage partner in the long run. You can skip all of this game playing with yourself and become the person God intended you to be.

God has made us wise enough to make the right choices for ourselves. We can choose to love the person we married or we can follow the ways of the world. Use the gifts God has given you and work on your marriage.

For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men, It teaches us to say No to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age. Titus 2:11-12

Article by Angie Lewis

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“I love you” is a “sweetest” one liner…we all likes to listen…not only once in a year but everyday. Though there should not be any particular occasion or time for one to express his or her love to any person whom they love…it should be often and regular, but how many of us really understand the meaning and importance of love.

People across the globewe all love to be loved by othersby our parents, by our friends and by that Special person of our life. Often we dont understand the importance of love…feelings and emotions. There is a misconception that your love for that special person starts from bedroom.

To start withWhy does one love? Is it to find an escape from the pains of loneliness or is it to feel the warmth of fulfillment that it brings to one’s heart? To me, love is the essential of all being.

One cannot exist without the love of another. To live for another makes a life complete in every way. Each beat of one’s heart, each breath, each small thought signifies a Small part of a love that is shared with another.

Who does one love? Are two people destined to come together or is it by chance alone? Only one’s heart can tell when love has come. It can feel the longing desire from its deepest point and it can feel the overpowering attraction when they are close. One loves whom his heart has chosen.

When does one love? Does one share their love in the soft mist of the early morning or in the crisp breeze of the darkening night? Those that are truly in love know no night or day, no dark or light. Love is a continuous thing.

So, if you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn’t choose to rest in the other person’s heart.

And if you find someone else in love with you and you don’t love him/her, feel honored that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage. Do not cause pain. How you deal with love is how you deal with you, and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different.

And if you fall in love with someone, he/she falls in love with you and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame, let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time. Remember that you don’t choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life.

Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you. Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in any way you can. There is where many lovers go wrong.

Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them Rather than from them.

The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as need. They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks love. They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.

Remember this, and keep it to your heart. Love has its own time, its own seasons, and its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into saying.

You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you. But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do.

Love always has been and always will be a mystery. Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life. IF YOU KEEP YOUR HEART OPEN, IT WILL COME AGAIN.

Why Valentines Day?

In the third century, the Roman Empire was ruled by Emperor Claudius II Gothicus. He was nicknamed Claudius the Cruel because of his harsh leadership and his tendency for getting into wars and abusing his people. In fact, he was getting into so many wars during the third century that he was having a difficult time recruiting enough soldiers.

Claudius believed that recruitment for the army was down because Roman men did not want to leave their loves or families behind, so he canceled all marriages and engagements in Rome.

Thousands of couples saw their hopes of matrimony dashed by the single act of a tyrant. And no one seemed interested in standing up to the emperor.

But a simple Christian priest named Valentine did come forward and stood up for love. He began to secretly marry soldiers before they went off to war, despite the emperors orders.

In 269 AD Emperor Claudius found out about the secret ceremonies. He had Valentine thrown into prison and deemed that he would be put to death.

As Valentine was awaiting execution, he fell in love with a blind girl, who happened to be the jailers daughter. On the eve of his execution, with no writing instruments available, Valentine is said to have written her a sonnet in ink that he squeezed from violets.

Legend has it that his words made the blind woman see again. It was a brief romance because the next day Valentine was clubbed to death by Roman executioners.

St. Valentine gave his life so that young couples could be bonded together in holy matrimony. They may have killed the man, but not his spirit. Even centuries after his death, the story of Valentines self-sacrificing commitment to love was legendary in Rome.

Eventually he was granted Sainthood and the Catholic Church decided to create a feast in his honor. They picked February 14 as the day of celebration because of the ancient belief that birds (particularly lovebirds, but also owls and doves) began to mate on that very day.

Its surprising to know that Valentines Day is really founded on the concept of love in marriage. On This Valentines Day, what are you doing to keep the love in your marriage burning? While giving a gift and card, having a candlelight dinner, and sharing special words of love are all important, the true spirit of Valentines Day needs to last throughout the year.

So, on this Valentines Day…I like to ask you…will you be my Valentine. I don’t promise to you…stars and moon, I know that the life ahead is not going to be a bed of roses…but I promise that I will keep you happy. I will not give tears to your eyes. I will be true and faithful to you.

I wish you to walk with me, in this journey of life…together…holding hands. I want to hug you tight…close to my heart…so that nothing can harm you. So, will you be my valentine…not for today…not for one year…but for my life…till the time I breathe my last.

I know that you think that I don’t even mean a single word I say. But it’s only words and words are all I have to take your heart away. This world has lost its glory let’s start a brand new story now my love. (Words…BoyZone)

“I love you”…for what you are and as you are…with all that you have…with your past and present…with your good and bad qualities…with your strengths and weaknesses. For me “I love you” is not just a sentence…for me every “I love you” is a promise, a commitment to stand by the person you love- whatever the odds, whatever the outcome, whatever the cost.

Every “I love you” is a pact. A sworn oath to stick by each other, to be there for each other, no matter what personal sacrifice is necessary, and no matter what Consequences may befall. Every “I love you” has nothing to do with touches, or kisses, or sweet nothings whispered in an attentive ear.?

I love you” is more than all these things. It means loyalty and honor and trust without the expectation of the same in return.

Again, I know that you think that I don’t even mean a single word I say. But it’s only words and words are all I have to take your heart away. This world has lost its glory let’s start a brand new story now my love. (Words…BoyZone)

Walk with me, the path of life,to explore every bend of the road. Enjoy with me the beauty of life,along its wonderful way. Find comfort with me, in each other’s arms, when grief crosses our path.

Find strength with me, in each other’s strength, when despair lies in wait. Laugh with me, a single true laugh, to enlighten another’s distress. Cry with me, a single true tear, to understand true happiness. Cherish with me, the wonders of life, as they need to be preserved.

Rejoice with me, in the mysteries, of what is yet to be. Find peace with me, in each other’s souls, when the world has gone insane. Find love with me, in each other’s hearts, until this life has been fulfilled. And when the path comes to an end I hope we can say from within, we’ve known the beauty of true love, our love came from within.

I know that you still think that I don’t even mean a single word I say. But it’s only words and words are all I have to take your heart away. This world has lost its glory let’s start a brand new story now my love. (Words…BoyZone)

It’s only words and words are all I have to take your heart away. This world has lost its glory let’s start a brand new story now my love. (Words…BoyZone)

With lots of love…and Care

Sanjeev Sharma (Mobile: +91-9876328841) (E-mail: ss_himachali@yahoo.com; sanjeev.himachali@gmail.com) (Blog: http://sanjeevhimachali.blogspot.com/)

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“Do you love me?” Why do we ask this again and again even though we know that in reality there is only one right answer to this question? Sometimes the answer comes with a smile or a kiss, other times it comes after a pause or a sigh.

Sometimes it’s enthusiastic and other times it’s dry and mechanical. Sometimes it’s convincing, and often it’s not. The problem is that when we ask this question, the other person has no choice in giving us the answer.

What do we mean by this question? What is love? Is it just an affectionate, warm, “mushy” kind of feeling? Or is it a sense of deep care for one another?

Often, when we ask this question, we hope to experience a sense of connection with a person we love. We want to see the sparkle in his or her eyes and feel our hearts open to each other. We hope that if we hear “yes” in return, our connection will be restored and we can go on.

But this quick fix rarely works, especially when our partner feels there is no choice in answering this question. In any situation in which we don’t have a real choice, our actions are not likely to come from the most joyful and loving place inside of us. Sadly, the strategy we often use to meet our need for connection is often not an effective one.

Nonviolent Communication, a powerful communication method pioneered by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg helps us to become more aware of our needs and to find better ways to meet them. So instead of asking “do you love me?” we can express to our partner how we feel and what our needs are.

For example, you might say “I feel a little distance between us and I would like to have more connection.” Or, “I feel a bit lonely and I want some closeness and affection.”

Expressing our feelings and needs helps our partners to understand what is going on for us in that moment, while the question “do you love me?” does not offer any information about our inner experience.

We also need to learn what actions or strategies work best to meet our needs for connection and make a request. In other words, we need to offer our partners some specific ways for this connection to happen.

When we put our full awareness on our needs, the images of how to meet these needs will readily come to mind. You could request that your partner tells you something specific and special.

You may ask, for example: “Would you be willing to tell me one thing we did together last week (or last year) that you enjoyed the most?” or “Would you be willing to tell me one thing that you really appreciate about me or one compliment on how I look today?”

Or you could request to spend a few minutes talking about what attracted you to each other when you met, or what you most enjoyed about your day together. You could spend time planning some fun things to do together tomorrow, next week or next year.

You could read poems to each other; have a glass of wine on the front porch; listen to music that you both enjoy; dance salsa in your living room, or talk about your dream house in the mountains. Strategies like these only take a few minutes each, but the payoff might be a memory you cherish forever.

There are many ways to meet your needs for connection with a person you love and care about. If you release your innate creativity and make a little effort, you will easily come up with a number of wonderful strategies that will bring you closer to each other.

The quality of connection that you will create by tuning into your needs and following your heart will be much deeper than any connection that could result from asking “do you love me?”

The truth is, quick fixes rarely work. There are no shortcuts to connection. But if you put the energy into your relationship, the payoff will be the quality of connection that you will deeply enjoy.

Inessa Love, Ph.D., is a trainer in Nonviolent Communication (NVC), also known as compassionate communication and she offers workshops and coaching for individuals, couples, groups and organizations. Inessa is an editor of a monthly newsletter Connection Times: Communication Successes and Challenges. Subscribe for FREE and learn how to transform conflicts and adversarial relationships and create genuine and satisfying connection in any area of your life. http://www.ConnectionTimes.org

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As someone who sees herself as a bit “girl power” I resent books like “The Rules” which make those of us over 40 and single feel like failures. Like we never joined the secret “how to get married” club, or rather we never got invited.

So for all those of us who actually like being single and do not need to be married to prove we are in fact really women and not men in drag I dedicate this article. If you are with a man and want to get rid of him and let him think he did it himself, or you are with a man and he is getting a bit too serious, then read on:

It is commonly thought that men run from commitment and so turning up for a date in a wedding dress or meeting his parents and asking “can I call you Mom?” used to be a sure fire way of getting rid of him. However the rise of the “metro sexual” man has put paid to all of that. Men now want to talk about feelings and steal our hair products so we need a new strategy.

If you are dating a man whose beauty regime makes yours look like a slap in the face with a damp towel, then competing with him means buying better products than he does.

Ok so it goes against the grain to spend 20 on moisturiser when you have saddle soap and an old packet of lard in the cupboard, but buy it you must. A cheaper version of this is to find a friend with lots of expensive products and steam off the labels.

Although I suppose if she wasn’t going to notice you steaming the labels off she probably wouldn’t spot you taking them altogether.

Make a big show of using the expensive stuff then pick his up, look at it, and put it back down with a sigh. Look at him at this moment and tell him how lovely his skin looks.

Even if that happens to be true, the seed of doubt will have been sown. No man can compete with a woman whose beauty products are better than his and he will want to trade you in for a woman who wears no make up and wants to bask in his glory.

Men can get very involved in the bits that used to be “just for girls”. Like planning the wedding and looking at catalogues. So if you are dating mature, “planning for the future” man, it’s a good idea to paint a really bad picture of your potential life together.

Conversations about him giving up his football/ beer/friends/family/job will usually make the bravest of them stop and think. Too many times you let them steer the conversation into how much they love you, how lovely it will be to be together all the time, how they don’t need anyone else.

Make them realise that those situations would be non existent and that your time together now is only bearable because of the interruptions from football/beer/friends/family/job. If he is really stubborn (or blinded by love as they like to see it) then make him give up everything else for 2 weeks.

I mean everything. He cannot do a thing unless it is with you. Drive him to work, pick him up afterwards. Go out with him, wait at the gym for him, drink with him and talk to him constantly. Let’s be honest here, would you want to see that much of yourself?

Independent men used to be easily scared off. Being too clingy, especially in front of their friends did the trick with embarrassing ease. These days it isn’t enough. Independent man now wants a clingy woman to endorse his manliness and confirm his desirability in front of his mates.

So the trick here is to be two women. That’s in an emotional sense, not in a scary wearing a wig, pretending to be your own twin way. When alone be very clingy. Want his whole itinerary, ask to see his texts, ring him as long as he’s alone. Talk a lot about “next year” and “the wedding”.

As soon as his mates are there, act like he is invisible. He will be telling his mates how badly you want him and how he is stringing you along. They will laugh at how you discuss wedding plans with him and how you think you’ll be together next year.

Once they can hear, do the opposite. If he mentions plans for next week, smile and say “let’s see how we feel then”. Any mention of weddings and rings, look sadly at him and say “I don’t want to embarrass you in front of your friends, let’s talk when we’re alone”. At this point, look directly at one of his mates and roll your eyes. He’ll be gone in a week.

I thought Neanderthal man was long dead. Not literally of course, I did do history at school and I am aware he’s been gone a while. No I mean the one man type we all recognise even without realising we think men fit into types. This one looks a bit odd.

They have a slightly “missing link” look about them, communicate in grunts and live on beer. Women only exist to them as servants and housekeepers oh and sexual slaves of course. Bizarrely for all their simple behaviour, a lot of women like them.

This seems to be because they have a strong base instinct for protecting their women. They can be spotted in bars as the ones saying “don’t touch/look at/buy a drink for, breathe near MY woman” whilst adopting a stance of readiness for action.

This stance shows itself as having a chest sticking out further than their feet, hands clenching and unclenching and a woman clinging to their arm saying “don’t hit him, he wasn’t doing nothing, he ain’t worth it”.

Getting rid of this one is relatively easy. They want a girl to be a girl. You have to need them. I mean really need them to the point of helplessness. You have to become so weak you cannot open a single jar yourself. Nor can you open doors, lift shopping bags or drive a car.

Strangely though you can lift lots of washing and open any type of beer can with your teeth. So if he comes home to find you have driven to the shops, opened several jars to make dinner including the one he couldn’t open himself and fixed the oil leak on the car, he is history.

If there is any final resistance, add that you have bought him a pink shirt and some facial products and you have enrolled you both into a “getting to know your partner” class and he won’t just leave the house, he’ll move away.

If your man isn’t really a type then try some general tactics. Leaving a copy of “How to Please your Woman in Bed, improve your technique” on the coffee table when friends are coming can help. Crashing his car or if you want more prolonged torture, just driving it really badly will eventually drive him nuts. Selling his car to buy something really girly often finishes a relationship completely. Giving him shopping lists is simple and cheap. One hidden in his wallet so it falls out at the office lunchtime drink works a treat.

I suppose there’s one last thing to try. You could bring back the art of conversation. Just tell him. Men can’t multi task so don’t tell him when he’s washing up, watching tv, shaving or dressing. In fact definitely not when shaving. If any of it did get through he’s likely to slice his face open.

Plan your words carefully. Don’t waffle. Explain that you were really just looking for sex and someone to buy dinner for you and that all your friends are fixed up and you felt left out. Say you don’t want to lose him but that you wanted a man who just popped in occasionally and who fainted at the words commitment and feelings.

If at this point he cries or tries to cut himself with his razor (I told you not to do it when he’s shaving) then put his stuff in a bag and call him a taxi. If though he laughs, says “Thank God for that I can stop pretending” and leaves the washing up half finished (I told you…) then I’d keep him… For EVER!

Does he like me? Trying to figure out the things that will make you learn if a guy likes you is exasperating at times.

But, there are many signs and clues that you can look for and if you notice them in your guy then you probably are in for a treat because he might just has his eye on you like the way that you do.

Does he like me? There are actually a lot of questions that you need to answer before you can eventually answer this major one. Look at them carefully and see if your guy is really doing those.

1 – Is making eye contact with you longer than what is necessary? This simple gesture can definitely say his interest in you. A guy who is not interested will only be polite but will not make any eye contact more than necessary during a conversation.

2 – Is he making excuses why he appears suddenly in your place or anywhere where you can be seen? It is funny how men do this at times. They just want to see you but they can’t admit that to themselves.

3 – Is he asking your friends about you? The reason for this is when guys just want to know more about you before they start doing their moves. They want to get to know you through your friends, which is the reason why they are doing this.

4 – Does he tend to take interest in the same interests that you have? When a man is in love, you tend to influence his life. He tends to take interest in the things that you do and make them his own.

If you answered “yes” to all of the above questions, then you have already answered “yes” to the question “Does he like me?

Men are oblivious to their own feelings but if you give time and pay attention more to what he does, he will open up. If you are the person that he wants and needs, it won’t be long before you will get his attention and he will surely like you in return.

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Dating a new man should be exciting and fun. When you both have children from previous marriages, it can end up a disaster. Here are 7 tips on what to do before you get too involved with a new guy:

• Talk to your children in advance and let them know you are starting to date. It is not good for this to be a surprise when you tell them you are dating someone new.
• Date your new man for a few weeks or even a couple of months before arranging for the children to meet. If you are not interested in this man seriously, it may be a waste of everyone’s time for all of you to meet.
• When you do bring the two families together to meet for the first time, find a place that will be comfortable for everyone. It is best to avoid either of your homes or a small restaurant where people will be forced to sit close together. Instead, look for a place that has enough space for people to come and go as necessary. A large restaurant or a park is a much better choice.
• If one of the children does not want to go, do not force them. Tell them that you respect their feelings and then find somewhere safe for them to go during that time.
• Allow the introductions to unfold naturally. Let everyone have time to feel out the situation and decide for themselves what they think about the whole thing.
• When you get back home allow your family to be open and honest about the meeting. If they did not like someone or something that happened, encourage them to discuss it openly. If one of your children does not say anything, this isn’t necessarily a bad thing. People need time to adjust to new situations.
• Let some time pass before getting everyone together again. If it is someone else’s idea besides yours, that is a good thing.

These 7 tips will get you off to a good start if you are just starting to date a new man.

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So, you’ve met the perfect guy for you. He’s good-looking, financially stable and clicks with you on every level. You feel as though you should bring him home to meet your parents.

However, you don’t know how to ask a guy to be your boyfriend. But, don’t worry! The next few paragraphs are going to help you through it.

1) Before your do it

First things first; you’ll need to think this through. Are your feelings for him that strong? Will that feeling be reciprocated? Are you sure it will last? How would he react to it?

All of these questions and more need to be answered before you decide to express your feelings to him. It’s best to go out with him a few times in order to judge his character.

This will help you answer the aforementioned questions. After that, you can decide for yourself whether you want to go through with.

2) Pick your spots

If you’ve decided he’s the man for you, then congratulations! Now, you’ll have to start planning a perfect way to say it. Choose the right place to tell him. It could in the middle of the bridge in a park if you’re the romantic type.

If you’re more sentimental, go to the first restaurant you had had your first date with. Wherever you choose, make sure it’s quiet and you’re alone. If you’re in a restaurant, ask for a private table.

This will help in creating an atmosphere where both of you can only see each other. Also, private surroundings help bring out your sincerity.

3) Perfect timing

Now, you can’t execute the rest of the plan without knowing when to do it. And finding out the right moment to tell him can be quite troublesome.

When asking a guy to be your boyfriend, you’ll have to make sure that the moment will not be ruined by anything else. So, make sure that your schedule for the day is free; your phone is off the hook and tell your friends not to bother you.

Also, find out his state of mind on that day. He could be mad at something or he could be preoccupied. It’s best if you took him out to have a bit of fun before popping the question.

4) The magic words

You are already sure that he’s the man for you, you’ve chose the perfect place and the timing is accurate to the second. Here comes the most crucial part of the plan – professing your love (or strong feelings).

Although there is no clear-cut way of getting started, but perhaps you can begin with telling him how he has made you feel every time you’re together.

Then, move on to the part where you wish to be more than friends with him and tell him you hope he has the same feelings for you. There is no distinct way in asking a guy to be your boyfriend, so if you feel lost, just blurt it out!

5) The aftermath

Now, it’s time to see his reaction. The most common ones are shock, then amusement which leads to acceptance. It could be sealed with a kiss or a hug. On the other hand, it’s possible for him to need some time to think it over. Allow him some space and don’t hold your breath.

There is no quick-fire way in asking a guy to be your boyfriend. But, if you think positively and you’re sure it’s a perfect match, things will work out on their own.

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When a relationship breaks up it is very common for one of the partners to realize that the feelings they had were much deeper than they realized and that they would be prepared to do just about anything to get back together again.

This can of course be difficult if certain things were said during the break up or if the relationship ended badly. It’s quite possible your ex will have cut off all communication with you and stopped going to the places you both frequented, just to avoid you.

If they don’t want anything to do with you it’s very difficult to get communication going again, and you may even have to allow them their cooling off period to show that you respect their wishes for time apart.

But after you have given them a little space, you need to be able to let them know that you still care deeply for them and want to give things another go. How you go about getting them from not talking to you, to establishing communication is a delicate matter.

The simplest way is to simply call and ask them if there’s a time you can catch up. If they are not talking to you at all you can expect a pretty chilly response to that.

So bear that in mind, and be prepared to approach them with a peace offering. You could start by saying you have a few things you feel you need to apologize for and ask if they would mind meeting for lunch.

If the direct approach fails you can employ a go-between. Be careful with this, because it can totally suck when you are caught between two ex-friends. You need to find a friend that both you and your partner trust, and you need to tell them how much you would like to get back together and how sincere you are.

Ask them if they would mind having a quiet chat with your ex and seeing if there is any way you can make up your former mistakes. And leave it at that.

Don’t bug your friend, don’t expect a call the next day and don’t be offended if they say they don’t want to get involved (in fact, you should make sure they understand they are under no obligation to get involved – you are asking a big favor here).

You need to be completely honest about the fact your goal is to get back together. Don’t try and play it cool – the time for that is passed.

If that fails, write your thoughts down in a letter. Stay sincere and don’t let your letter get long winded. When it is done let it sit for 24 hours then read over it again and make sure it says exactly what you want it to. The thing with a letter is making sure it gets to the right person and gets opened.

Hand deliver it, acknowledge any mistakes you may have made and any hurt you may have caused. Apologize and ask them to read the letter and let you know if there’s any way you can make it up to them.

When you are trying to re-establish contact with someone where a relationship has ended badly you have to be sincere and open yourself up for a rejection.

Don’t constantly pester them, but rather give them some space and let them know you will be ready for them whenever they are prepared to give things another shot.

When you are wondering about what’s going on in his heart and mind consider the 10 signs that he’s in love with you. Recognizing these can help you determine what he’s really feeling, even if he’s not expressing it clearly.

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