No one wants to find out that the person they promised to love and honor through good times and bad is having an extramarital affair. The news itself is devastating enough but on top of that there is a process which has to be endured in order to untangle this whole trauma and begin the recovery process.
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There have been more than a few cases where one spouse either never discovers their spouse is being unfaithful or finds out way too late. Why? More than likely it is a philandering spouse’s ability to cover their tracks. By maintaining the illusion of normalcy they are able to keep their significant other from getting suspicious.
For Jenny Sanford enough was enough. By all accounts she had given her husband Mark Sanford ample time to get his act together and help her to save the marriage. It didn’t work and she was granted a divorce from the South Carolina Governor whose infidelity made national headlines.
While many of us may live our lives by a certain code or more specifically a routine that keeps us grounded in the day to day realities of life, we in some ways cannot help but admire the adventurers. We may not have the gumption to do what they do but inside of ourselves we fantasize about doing something just as exciting.
It is absolutely amazing that in many cases of infidelity the offended party has no clue that they were being cheated on and the only way they found out was blind luck.
Nobody knows how they will react when they find out their significant other is carrying on an extramarital affair. Most people tell themselves that they will remain calm no matter what and if push comes to shove they will be the one that stays on the high road.
Every marriage has its share of ups and down but few are as devastating as finding out that your spouse was carrying on an extramarital affair. You just cannot bring yourself to believe this person you trusted and promised to share your life with would do something so dreadful.