The Relationship Tip

We’ve all had situations with our partner or significant other in which we mean to say something nice, but it’s perceived as the total opposite.

No amounts of back tracking, apologies or explanations are going to fix it. You didn’t mean it the way it was taken, but now you’re stuck with it.

Keep reading for three of the most common “Whoops” insults and how to fix things if they happen to slip out from between your lips;

1) “You’re not like anyone I’ve ever been out with”

What you meant to say was “you’re fantastic!”, but what he/she will be thinking is that they don’t measure up to your previous partners.

Avoid comparing your current sweetie to your past ones even if you mean to put them at the top of the list. Especially at the beginning of a relationship, your guy or gal wants to believe they’re the first, not the last in a long string.

When the words have already left your mouth, you need to recover, and fast! Start by reassuring your significant other that he/she has left any others in the dust and follow that up with a couple of specific and sincere compliments. Don’t get too wordy and over the top here, you don’t want to make things worse. They need to know that there’s no one else you’d rather be with.

2) “Size, schmise, it really doesn’t matter”

Good grief, you didn’t, did you? That’s just never okay. Unfortunately, I’ve done it myself, and instantly regretted it. Your grandmother probably felt the same way when she let this gem slip!

Every time a woman utters these words she’ll be met with an awkward silence and tons of insecurity.

The most frustrating part of this is that for the most part it’s true Unless your man’s part is so exceptional it defies belief, size really doesn’t matter. But there isn’t a man alive who will believe it.

If you’ve made this verbal faux pas, don’t dwell on it. Give a quick explanation and move on. And make plans for some special attention later in the evening.

3) “I can’t believe you got the job!”

Now, maybe only the most insecure of people would see this as an insult. But hey, a lot of people are insecure and it doesn’t make them bad people…you just have to be careful.

Make sure a compliment is truly a compliment. Of course they got the job! Hell yes, they got that job! They are going to kick that job’s ass and show it who’s boss! Those are compliments.

When your response to your partner’s good news is one of surprise, they’ll think you doubt their ability. It may be annoying, but if you think about it you’ll see that their reaction is justified. You’re supposed to be their biggest supporter. You shouldn’t need to be won over.

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Nanette Geiger, Relationship Best Selling Author , writes… …

“I often tend to attract the one who’s emotionally unavailable. What can I do to change my vibration”? This is a question that was asked by one of my clients. Interestingly, that was the strongest complaint I recurred from my lengthy string of failed relationships. They were either emotionally unavailable, lived out of town or was travelling a great deal.

When you keep attracting unavailable relationships, my question to you is, “Is there an aspect of your life that has a fear of commitment, or afraid to be transparent in a love relationship”? That may be hard to take in at the moment, but that’s what I have found to be the situation most of the time.

As a relationship life coach, I provide Relationship Life Coaching for Women. I also recommend that you get very clear about what you want. Get clear by creating a list of the qualities you want in your perfect match.

You make the list for yourself so you can get clarity about what it is you truly desire. You’ll begin to realize where any weaknesses are in your vibration as you make the list. You’ll see where you need to go to increase your level of creation or belief in the likelihood of creating what you are desiring.

To evoke the state of feeling happy expectancy, next ask yourself the question “Why do I want this”? It’s time to engage your imagination.

When you answer this question, imagine all the wonderful things you’ll do together. Think of grinning, holding hands, and introducing him to your girlfriends. Think of what it’ll be like to be with someone who’s romantic and loves to bring you flowers.

You make the list for you, and the Universe recognizes your clear vibration – the pure intention and unresisted desire!

Most of us have been trained from childhood to accept whatever you get, it is not kosher to ask for favors, why can’t you just be content with what you have? – kind of like programming. I suggest you ask for it all and continue feeling yourself into the alignment of your affirmations.

There are five basic stages you need to be aware of and it’s almost a case of them working in synergy as one crosses over into the other. It’s also important to realize you shouldn’t try to shortcut the process.

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When you amplify your desires, you’ll also be increasing your faith and trust and grow in belief. Building your expectation and belief and knowing that he’s out there and at this very minute, he’s seeking you, too.

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It’s your job to emit a clear unimpeded signal. To get your vibration in alignment to actually allowing or receiving the love of your dreams. To really feel it in your bones, not just speculate that it may, hopefully happen, some day.

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Consider the Universe is a gigantic intention fulfillment machine. When you want a love relationship and you keep getting duds, there’s a mismatch in your beliefs.

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