At this point, if you are reading this, you have probably already done some sort of investigating or maybe even used spy equipment to find out what is going on.I know that you need to know what is going on, you want answers now?
If you think that your spouse is cheating, and are going to do a little investigating, what you do not do is just as important as the things that you do.
In general you do not want to tip your cheating spouse off to the fact that you are suspicious of their cheating or infidelity.
The biggest mistake that you could possibly make is to confront your spouse before you have done an investigation and/or have proof of the affair that they cannot deny. You should in no way let him / her know that you are on to them. He/she is already being secretive and hiding the truth from you. If you show your hand too soon it will make it extremely difficult to find the truth.
Asking them straight out will probably get a denial, they don’t have much of a choice if you really think about it. If there is no infidelity they have to deny it. If your suspicions are correct, but they want to save the relationship, they will lie because they don’t want the relationship to end. If they are cheating on you and they plan on leaving, our experience tells us that they will lie to you until the very last minute for one of two reasons, the person they want to be with is not 110% committed to be with them indefinitely or they feel that they cannot get divorced due to monetary or religious concerns. In short, there is almost no opportunity for the truth to come out on it’s own and if it does, the timing is completely controlled by your unfaithful spouse.
The bottom line is that if he/she knows that you are onto them they will go to even greater lengths to cover their tracks, making it even more difficult for you to find out the truth.
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WR Haven: That’s a good point. Unfortunately in many instances the offended party can come off looking like the heavy, especially if the game goes on for awhile.
Don’t you hate all of the cat and mouse games? Catching a cheating spouse should not be this hard. It should be where you did not have to do so much work. Afterall, you are not the guilty party.