A question for Dr Lukats at The Belfast Telegraph: 

Now my Dilemma is this, we’re both in our early 40’s, neither of us have ever married or lived with someone else. Although I care about him deeply and vice a versa, to say there was a intense chemistry would be a lie, there was no lightening bolt or force of nature that brought us together, other than gallons of wine, This isn’t a mills and boon romance novel, I do however believe we’re both happy and fulfill each other.

Can this type of love, without the sizzle, really work in the long run?

The short answer is yes. Many couples have been happy together and initially there were no bells and whistle or chorus of angels singing in harmony. Dr Lukats’ response.