by John Laney

Arguing and fighting can kill a relationship. Is there any relationship advice that can help?

Of course there is! And it can be put to use quickly and with pleasure. But first, know that arguing and fighting is common and normal in love relationships.

Two people with their own needs and perspectives and backgrounds will disagree and fight occasionally, it’s just going to happen.

There is a lot you can learn about fighting “fair,” and turning conflict into caresses, while getting both your needs met in the relationship. But this article will focus on how to stop fighting before it can even erupt. Is there any way to stop battling in a relationship before it even begins?

Many times, yes, there is a way to stop fighting before it begins! One study done on adult couples found:

Play stops fighting. The more play in the relationship, the less conflict.

Isn’t that almost too obvious? The more we play in our relationships, the less we are likely to fight and argue with our mates. Additionally, we will deal with conflict when it arises in a more healthy way.

It makes a lot of sense, right? If the two of you play together regularly, you will both be less anxious and stressed out. So you won’t get as upset about the difficulties that will come up in your relationship.

Therefore, some simple relationship advice is that if you want to stop conflict before it arises, you need to add more play back into your relationship. The more you add back in, the more you will begin to notice a lessening of anger and argument between you.

Take a moment now to consider: How much play do you have in your relationship now? What do the two of you do together that you both enjoy? How often do you do things that you both enjoy?

When we first get into a relationship, we play together a lot. We go to movies, go out to dinner, go for walks, we do all kinds of fun things together.

But over time, as life goes on, we can get caught up in the obligations and pressures of life and stop playing very much with our mate. And the more we do this, the more we fight and argue about the little and big things.

When the play goes, we are left with more conflict.

So if you have more fighting and arguing in your love life, you’ve probably stopped playing as much as you used to. To reverse this trend, follow this pleasurable relationship advice: start adding in more play.

Schedule more play time together doing some of the things you both enjoy. Just one play night a week can start to change things. Play is quality time. When you have playtime, you’ll likely notice its a powerful way to stop conflict at the source.

Its a powerful way to begin to deal with conflict differently.