There is a saying that states: “you can not miss something that you never had”. This must be the reason why it is not uncommon for most people to have an obsession with their ex’s. Most of us have difficulty to let go of the relationship, the person and the past.

It is most likely that you will suffer from some sort of degree of depression simply because it is found to be part of the grieving caused by the loss you suffer. Very few people realize how intense the pain is and the way they act, humiliating at the best of times during the breakup period, is all related to the trauma they are suffering.

What happened or who did what is not important anymore. Just forget about it, forgive them and get on with your normal life. You should not have any expectations either from life or future and just take each day as it comes by.

Stop expecting anything from your ex or any person. Only the person going through the situation will know how it feels. But you can cope in the following ways:

Just let your sorrow flow out in the form of tears. You will feel better once you have had a round of crying. You will start looking up to life after you have grieved.

If you are a religious person or believe in God, go to them. Seek their blessing and take their help. Be positive and welcome change and new things.

Focus on yourself and not the other person. Pity yourself and find happiness within you. Fill up your loneliness with your activities and work. You have it in you and can make it happen.

When pain come back and knock on your door after a while again, accept and acknowledge it but do not foster it. Become consciously aware of the existing moment. Notice positive things around you. The more you do this, the more will you start to keep the past a distant memory.

Letting them go is all about Forgiveness. Its easy to forgive, forget and move on rather than be depressed. It does not matter whose fault, just leave the negative feelings you have. Do it for yourself, you are worth it.

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