How to Perform Incredible Manual Stimulation on a Woman
Wednesday, January 27th, 2010Have you ever thought about becoming a better lover? Have you wondered how some guys are amazing in bed? I can tell you that nobody is born knowing how to please their partner, it’s something that’s learned over time.
There are many different aspects to providing pleasure to a woman and in this article I will be discussing just one of those, manual stimulation, or fingering.
Many men overlook fingering and many women do the same. But I’m here to tell you that your hands can provide an incredible amount of pleasure if you just know how to work them properly. But keep in mind that every woman out there has different likes and dislikes for how she likes to be touched.
An important thing to remember is that the brain truly is the body’s largest sex organ, so in order to ‘prep’ her vagina you’re first going to have to make her mentally ready. This is due to the fact that if she isn’t producing any lubricant of her own then any serious activity down there could be quite uncomfortable, even downright painful. So before you start right in on the pleasing make sure she’s ready, take your time, communicate, there’s no hurry.
I would like to say one more thing before we get into the meat of how to perform fingering. As I mentioned earlier, every woman has different likes and dislikes as far as what they enjoy sexually. So pay attention, keep communication open, some women love a lot of direct clitoral stimulation, some women find any direct stimulation to be uncomfortable. Some women can reach orgasm through g-spot attention only and some women can never reach orgasm without clitoral support. And some women never reach orgasm, no matter the time and attention given.
The techniques I will go over here are just guidelines, remember to change them as necessary for the situation and the woman you’re with.
1) The Classic
If you’ve ever fingered a woman then you’ve probably used this simple technique. But just because it is standard and easy doesn’t mean it’s not effective, in fact this is one that for most women is guaranteed to get the job done.
After you know she’s properly moist you take your index and middle fingers and work them in a circular motion around the clit. Make sure you let her know to keep you informed on her situation, some women love constant clitoral stimulation until climax but some love a bit more variety. She may want you to use those fingers and go inside her for a while before returning to her clit. Pay attention to her reactions and listen to what she has to say.
Don’t go too fast at first and always keep a good rhythm, breaking rhythm will interrupt her engagement in the moment and possibly prevent her from climaxing. Unless, of course, she wants you to, then by all means, do as she asks.
2) Doubling Up
This is a very powerful technique but before you attempt it make sure you can rub your stomach and pat your head at the same time. When you are able to do that you need to place yourself between the girl’s legs while she is lying on her back or sitting, you can also sit to one side or the other.
With one hand you move your fingers in a thrusting motion inside her vagina and with the other hand you a make circular motion around her clit. To be able to more easily pull this one off without losing your smooth tempo you might want to start with only one hand or the other and when you’re in the groove slowly add the second hand.
Even though each hand needs to keep its own rhythm, nobody says both hands need to follow the same beat. Vary it, find what gets the best reaction and remember to always listen to what she has to say.
3) Using Finger Vibrators
There’s nothing wrong with looking outside the human body for a little help and variety in your manual stimulation. There are a few different main options that you have available to you.
The first option is aptly called a finger, these are typically made of jelly or silicone and are similar in shape to thimbles but tend to be placed over your index and middle fingers. They are ribbed or covered in little nubs which provide added stimulation over the bare finger alone.
Clit vibrators such as bullets are often used by women for masturbation, but don’t think for a second that they can’t be used by a partner for added pleasure. Some bullets even come with their own covers, very similar to the fingers explained above but made to fit snugly over a small vibrating bullet.
Thoughts to End By
If you want to truly become a better lover you need to think about variety, keeping things new, always trying new things. Practice makes perfect and that holds true, even in the sexual world. Pleasure comes in many variations and there are always more to find and explore. so don’t let yourself get caught in a rut, go out and find to ways to please your lover, it’s what will set you apart from all the other ‘average joes’.
Remember, there are many various sex toys out there such as rabbit vibrators for ladies and the famous line of Fleshlights for guys, so give different toys a try, they can add a lot to your sex life.
And don’t forget lubrication, it’s very important to have, especially if the woman you are with doesn’t produce enough of her own.
