Are you in pain or do you know someone who has just lost a boyfriend? Well this is a painful situation to be in. You need to be able to have some strength and hear some encouragement words from your friends and loved ones.

You need to understand that the grieving process has some certain steps or feelings. Allow me to go through a few of these – hopefully you will realise that you are not alone and you are on your way to healing.

Disbelief

One of the first emotions to hit soon after receiving bad news is disbelief. This is made worse by the fact that you may have just seen your boyfriend or just talked to him over the phone. This initial feeling may last for a couple of hours and sometimes days. In most occasions it lasts up to the day of the funeral.

Shock

Shock comes by as a result of seeing the person actually motionless and lifeless. It could be at the morgue or at the memorial service. Being shocked is an inevitable feeling after reality strikes. Compared to the other emotions, it is easy to get through this one.

Anger

This feeling can be directed at any one and everyone including yourself and the people who were meant to “protect” your boyfriend. If you do not properly manage anger, it can get really destructive. You need to watch what you say and think during the time. Try to find some daily words of encouragement to help you deal with this destructive feeling.

Pain

Here is one feeling that never seems to go away. It required you to constantly hear some words of encouragement. Pain is really a nasty feeling. I mean it just sticks in there and does not seem to ever end. No matter how it feels, it goes away eventually. You may not forget but the pain does go away eventually.

Pain comes with helplessness and sometimes regret. You may feel nothing will ever take away the pain or regret not telling your boyfriend certain things.