The early years of most relationships it seems are filled with fun and excitement. It’s an amazing and exhilarating experience growing to love and understand someone and vice versa. It’s scary not knowing what lies ahead between the two of you but you do not let it stop you from making a go of it.

Over time the magic in some instances is going to give way to the routine. This in large part is obviously due to familiarity. You get to know the other persons traits and idiosyncrasies. It comes with the territory.

It doesn’t mean you should not try to recapture the flavor of those early days. That should be an ongoing process. Hopefully you and your spouse are constantly growing as a couple.

So why are your instincts telling you there is something wrong with your significant other’s curious change of habits?

For instance as long as you can remember your spouse has been on the conservative side when it came to buying clothes or spending money in general. Now they look like they stepped out of a magazine. Hopefully that’s all for you in the spirit of recapturing that spontaneity you both had before.

However, you noticed it doesn’t stop there. Now they start working out. Again looking to improve oneself can make for a very healthy relationship but in all the time you have been with your spouse they never particularly cared for exercising. Why now?

In the case of a cheating spouse it comes down to one thing. Impress the other person. An extramarital affair requires not only planning, finances and luck but also demands a transfer of loyalties even if it is only a brief fling. They want the other person to like them so they do things that they find pleasing. That’s what you and your spouse did to get each other.

One of those loyalties is time. There are only twenty four hours in a day. If you and your spouse are used to doing things together, the only way they can spend time with the other person is spend less time with you.

Changes in work schedule maybe one of the indicators most mentioned when it comes to signs of a cheating spouse but in today economy it’s understandable. Many people have to work longer hours just to make ends meet. That includes both spouses. When you do get off work naturally you both should observe some quiet time for yourselves also known as giving each other space.

But you notice some distance creeping into the relationship. They want to be by themselves once too often. They also seem to be going out more and usually without you. When you inquire the answer you get may sound logical until you ask to go along. Then it can range from vagueness to lame to even a little hostile. You can live with now and then but as of late it has become a regular occurrence.

If your significant other decides to improve themselves you should welcome it and try to help where you can. But if your instincts are telling you that these change of habits are not necessarily benefiting the current relationship then pay attention.