Daryl Campbell
Recession? What recession? That’s probably how some conversations start and end among online dating executives. This has been an incredible period of growth for the cyberdating industry, from record profits and memberships to becoming more widely accepted into the cultural mainstream.
But success continues to elude many online dating participants. It’s estimating that ninety percent of people who try cyberdating have no luck.
It could be any number of reasons that lead to this statistic but there is no doubt for quite a few people self sabotage plays a key role. Self Sabotage in the form of
1. The Little Lie
You put some information in your online dating profile that was not exactly true. No big deal. It wasn’t done to deceive it was done to make you look slightly better in the eyes of the other person.
Except do you really want to start off a relationship that way? A lie no matter how small puts the whole relationship on shaky ground. If you get tripped up on it (as is often the case online or off), the other person will wonder what else are they lying about?
2. What Profile?
No photo. No specific information about yourself. Just a sentence that says you like the outdoors and are looking for someone who also likes the outdoors. What does that mean?
Are you looking for someone who likes to go boating, camping, hiking or what? There’s a lot to do outdoors. You want to make a connection but you haven’t given the other person anything to connect with.
3. Now Means Red Alert
After a couple of online chats you are ready to take it offline. The other person however does not feel that way. You say you respect that but the next time you two hookup you start the whole process again.
This scares your cyber date because in reality they still do not know you. So instead of taking any chances they just cut off all messaging. Too bad because they were really starting to like you
You could do everything right and the person on the other side of the monitor turns out to be fickle or a game player or someone with no serious interest in anything but chatting.
That’s the way it goes sometimes. You cannot control their actions but you can make sure that you avoid sabotaging your own.