Daryl Campbell
Of course there are countless ways to ruin a relationship. Constant nagging and/or an unchecked ego work effectively. There are many others which I’m sure you can think of.
Yet there is one way that works quite well in not only casting you in a bad light but also has the added feature of getting your current dating partner to questions themselves. As in what have they gotten themselves into?
Its bad mouthing your ex. Were they that terrible? From your point of view the answer is an unequivocal yes. However the person you are dating now has never met your ex so they have nothing to go on except your words and how you express them.
And ripping into your ex with all the rage you can muster may tell them a couple of things. Neither of which you will like much:
1. Out of Control
Watching you rant and rave may get your date to thinking if talking about your ex can cause you to lose control, then what else is causes you to go off like that? Maybe the ex ditched you because of these displays. None of this may be true but your date does not know that.
2. They Are Next
There is no assurance that you two are going to remain together. You could fall out of love or meet someone new that you think is a better fit. So if things do not work out for whatever reason are you going trash them?
They may feel if that’s the case then the best thing to do is end the relationship right now. That way if you want to trash them in the future to your new dating partner then at least that didn’t provide you with anymore ammo.
Okay your ex was terrible. When you look up rotten in the dictionary you see their picture. Even still the best thing you can do when the subject comes up is remain calm.
Be truthful but keep it as brief as possible and avoid descriptions that are too descriptive. Do yourself, your current dating partner and your ex a huge favor by letting the past stay in the past.
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