by Jacklyn Lick

So, you really like this guy, and he’s not calling you. What do you do? When is it most appropriate to call him? And are you putting yourself in a lower position by calling him first? Oh the games we play! Why can’t it just be more straight forward?

Well, actually, it is! I’ve compiled 3 easy weapons for you to win the dating phone call battle and put yourself in a position of power.

Number One: First off, if you are going to call him first, and make the first move, don’t forget the KISS. Keep It Short and Simple. A quick message suggests that you are interested, but, you have other things in your life that are important to you. You don’t have the time to sit on the phone and create a long story. It eliminates his fear of your neediness, and creates some mystery.

Number Two: In case he actually answers the phone, you still must Keep It Short and Simple. Before you make the phone call, have something you must go and do even if you don’t. Have it in your mind so that you can make the phone call brief. If he wants to keep talking, make an appointment for later when he can call you. For example…”I’ll be back at 8 pm tonight, so, you can call me anytime after that if you wish.”

Number Three: Playfulness is important. At the beginning of any relationship, a man fears being tied down. Many men fear commitment, and don’t want to feel pressed. It is important to stay light and playful with confidence. Lightheartedness and playfulness are two very attractive elements that stimulate a man into wanting more of your company. Deep emotions need to be saved for once the relationship is on a role. A man will pay more respect to your deeper emotions if he feels he’s earned those emotions from you, and that you don’t just share them with any man you meet.

Ok, I’m going to jump ahead here a bit, because I get excited for women to get the man of their dreams. So I’m adding an extra tidbit for after you’ve made some initial progress with the guy you are dating.

Number Four: Space. Always allow the man to have space, while at the same time being interested in what he is doing. There is a fine line between obsessiveness and support. Communication is a key element here in knowing and reading how much space your man wants, and how much interest he needs to feel wanted, without being too obsessive. The man sharing what he’s up to is much more power in your court than you asking what he’s doing. There is a lot more about space that I’ll explain at a later date, and how you can use the space to benefit you while keeping his undivided attention.

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So, you really like this guy, and he’s not calling you. What do you do? When is it most appropriate to call him? And are you putting yourself in a lower position by calling him first? Oh the games we play! Why can’t it just be more straight forward?

http://www.innerkitten.com

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