14 Steps to a Great Date Every Time You Go Out

By Julissa De Mayo

Did you know you could have a great date on every date, even if it is bad if you just follow a few simple steps?

Well, you can and, even if the date is not a match you can leave it feeling as if you put your best foot forward and walk out feeling comfortable with no one being left with hard feelings. Here is a list of things to keep in mind before going out on any date, especially a first date.

Get plenty of sleep the night before the date, thereby fully energized, and in best form.

Dress appropriately for the occasion and situation. Do not go over a board; but don’t go looking like a slouch either, unless your date consists of cleaning out horse stalls, and if that is the situation, you may want to reconsider the date.

Take it easy on the makeup girls, and allow some of that natural beauty to shine through. In addition, men and women, keep the smelly stuff light. It’s meant to entice and bring someone in closer, not knock them off their seat.

Have no expectations of the date being Mr. or Mrs. Right for you – (this is a tough one, since we all want this to happen). Just look at it as an opportunity to get out, have some fun, and meet someone new with no deeper expectations.

Let someone know where you will be, what time you expect to be home. You can even have a friend or family member call you somewhere into the date to check on your well-being and if things are not going well it can be your way out.

However, either way, if your date is going great or poorly, do not discuss the date while still on the date. Save it, and simply tell the caller that you are out and will return their call later if going well, and if going poorly, thank the caller for calling and tell them you will be there A.S.A.P; your golden ticket out.

Be on time. It really is not cute or fashionable to be late. Also, have a set time in your head that you want to be home – first dates especially. Do not start the date off with letting the person know right off the bat that you have to be home at such-and-such time nor be a clock watcher.

Just simply say in passing the general time you need to be home, because you have pending plans, work obligations, or must just walk your dog. This leaves it open if the date is going exceptionally well, and you decide you want to stay out a bit longer, or if not going well – your out.

Keep the date alcohol free or limit it to one drink. This keeps your judgment clear.

Keep your drink or food order in proportion to what your date orders in a dollar amount or less. After all, it is a first date so show some consideration. Times are tough enough as it is, then to bleed your dates’ wallet and then not have any interest in the person. That is just wrong in every sense of the word.

Keep an upbeat attitude during your date, regardless if you feel an immediate connection or not. This by no way means that you have to act like you are totally into the person, just be polite and do not start snubbing your date.

If the date is not a connection, treat it as if you were out with co-workers, still be polite, be appreciative, say thank you, and consider picking up your own tab.

Be yourself! Trying to fit an image you think your date wants will only end in disaster. You want your date to like you, for you, not who you might think they want you to be.

Do not talk about ex’s of any kind ever on a first date, no matter if you are prodded into doing so. Just simply say you would rather know more about them personally and change the subject. There will be plenty of time for baggage talk later if a relationship does develop.

You do not need to share your whole life story with your date on the very first date. Leave some mystery; you want to learn more about you possibly leading to future dates.

Do not scope the surrounding for other eligibles. It is just rude for a man or a woman.

Keep your hormones in check. No sex on first date ever! Always wait until a relationship has had time to develop. Men, by having sex on a first or second date you have to realize most women associate sexual activity with a deeper feeling or emotion.

If you are not both on the same level you can be asking for more than you really want. Women, giving it up immediately can make a man question your virtue regardless of how many times you try to convince him you never do things like that!

Just because a man may want you sexually, does not mean he wants you for a relationship. Keep the clothes on until you are both at the same level.

Say what you mean, and mean what you say. Do not send mixed signals. If you realize you are not interested in seeing the person further, do not promise to call, or tell them you look forward to a second date, when you know that will not take place.

Julissa de Mayo writes and lectures on relationship issues. She has taken these skills and dedicated them to writing and moderating thehttp://www.Soulmate-Blog.com which is an open forum to discuss, learn, gain insight, express feelings and freely comment on all things connected with interpersonal relationships. She invites everyone to visit the http://www.soulmate-blog.com and contribute your thoughts and feelings as well as rants and raves.

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