There are many signs of to look for when trying to determine whether or not your spouse is carrying on a marital affair. For instance they may be getting phone calls at odd hours. Or they claim to working a lot of overtime but the paystub does not match up with the number of hours supposedly worked.
If the person that you love with all of your heart has betrayed you, then you would obviously be heartbroken. You may start wondering if you should just end the relationship and try to move on with your life. If you really love your spouse though, you might try to do something to save the relationship if you can only find a way to trust your partner again.
It’s far too easy to kick and berate yourself, but you didn’t cause her bad conduct.
The deepest damage caused by discovering your loved one has been cheating on you is the psychological blow.
Yes, it tears up your heart and shreds your sense of security and trust, but it also makes you doubt yourself and your desirability.
For the time being you have made the decision to stay in the relationship after the affair but the reality is there is a lot of hard work ahead. What your mate did is over and done with so there is no going back. Their blatant disregard for you put the entire marriage in jeopardy.
The evidence is mounting, and so is your desperation, anger or fear. Like in any other high-stress situation (like the death of parent, for instance), you are not thinking clearly.
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